Codependence

Codependence

Healing the Child Within

Healing the Child Within

“In 1986, when this book was first published, it was cutting edge and ahead of its time. Just as relevant today as it was twenty years ago, Healing the Child Within remains a ground-breaking book in trauma psychology and recovery.” (Foreward by Cardwell Nuckols) The book’s author, Charles Whitfield, describes the child within as the True Self, Real Self or Higher Self. He contrasts this with the False Self, the co-dependent self, which is essentially a cover-up. “It is inhibited, contracting and fearful. It is … Continue reading

Addict in the Family

Addict in the Family

“The truth most families eventually discover is that no one can cure another person’s addiction. Only addicts can do that for themselves.” (p. 15) The mother of a heroin addict, Beverly Conyers has written a readable and comprehensive book that not only understands the dilemma and challenges of the addict’s family, but also addiction itself. Chapter Two, “The Stranger You Love,” describes the denial, dishonesty and manipulation that is an inevitable part of alcoholism and addiction. Chapter Three, “The Beast Inside,” does a credible job … Continue reading

Beyond Codependency

Beyond Codependency

Melody Beattie published Codependent No More in 1986. Three years later she wrote Beyond Codependency. She explains the differences between the two in the Introduction to the second book: “This is a book about recovery. Actually, this is a book about continuing our recoveries. I wrote it for people recovering from the ways they’ve allowed themselves to be affected by other people and their problems. I wrote it for people recovering from codependency, chemical dependency, and adult children issues. I wrote it for people struggling … Continue reading

Adult Children of Alcoholics

Adult Children of Alcoholics

The cover of the expanded edition announces that there are over two million copies of the book in print. Who would have thought that there were that many alcoholics – and children of alcoholics – to warrant a number of that kind? For those unfamiliar with alcoholism, the number comes as a shock. Adult Children of Alcoholics first appeared in 1983, after it had been refused by any number of publishers. The author, Janet Woititz writes, “I was told I was making a big deal … Continue reading

Codependent No More

Codependent No More

Codependent No More was the first book of self-help author Melody Beattie. It was originally published in 1986 and became a phenomenon of the self-help movement, going on to sell over eight million copies. The subtitle of the book offers a hint at the apparent contradiction that accompanies codependency: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. From the book: “Codependency involves a habitual system of thinking, feeling, and behaving toward ourselves and others that can cause pain. Codependent behaviors or habits are … Continue reading

Emotional Sobriety

Emotional Sobriety

Tian Dayton explains the way our brains and bodies work, and the way our emotions by-pass the thinking part of the brain, and go to our instinctive survival parts of the brain. She explains how we have body memories of suppressed emotions, and why, when we have been through relationship trauma, we store the pain in our bodies and it causes us to self-medicate with activities or substances that chemically help us to deal with it. With kindness, compassion, and solid factual information, she explains … Continue reading